LIVING IN THE MOMENT

One of the classes I'm currently taking is expository writing. I had to write an essay on a thought or belief which was important to me, and this is what I came up with. It is a bit formal, since it was written for an English class, but it gets the point across. This is such an important topic to me, and is something I am truly trying to work on and embody in my own life, so I really wanted to share it with you .

This writing was initially inspired by the book, "Enjoying Where You Are on the Way to Where You are Going" by Joyce Meyer. Our pastor than led a message on the same issue the weekend I began reading the book. It was an incredible message, and regardless of your beliefs or religious inclinations, was really something which applies to everyone. You can watch it online here. I got the point, and I've been working on being more present in my life ever since.

Searching for Joy, Finding Today

            Modern day humans from every race, religion, and nation across the globe are facing an incredibly insidious epidemic. It has likely touched your friends, neighbors, and perhaps even crept stealthily into your own home. There is no immunization, and no medical treatment for this ailment. What is this plague, you may wonder. It has no one name, but rather floats ambiguously between many. Regret. Dread. Fear. It starts with a constant, nagging feeling of malcontent which fills our hearts and minds. It quickly grows into a thief that steals our peace and robs us of joy. It is an obsession with the past, or a habitual preoccupation with the future. It is the complete failure of so many people to mentally and emotionally live in the present. This epidemic leads to the total unconscious evasion of our everyday moments. It incapacitates, traps, and impedes without restriction. It inhibits people from actively living within so many irreplaceable moments, can stop us from fulfilling goals and dreams, and prevents us from experiencing all the joy that each new day can offer.

            How many people do you know that truly enjoy life? Do you? How many countless millions are searching for happiness, as if it were a single, defined point at which one will eventually arrive. Life is a journey, and happiness is not a final destination. There is perhaps nothing more heartbreaking than being alive, and not truly enjoying your life. As human beings we were made to be constantly moving, constantly changing and growing. However this tendency towards perpetual motion also presents us with the constant hazard of becoming stifled by our mistakes, or so focused on our futures that we lose sight of our “now.” This preoccupation with the past, the future, or both can completely distract us from today, and cause us to lose days, months, and sometimes years of worthwhile and potentially joy-filled experiences within our lives while we are mentally and emotionally focused on other times and places.

            We’ve all heard the phrase he or she is “stuck in the past,” and yet few consider how deeply damaging regret can be.  It is such a useless and destructive emotion. One of the most traumatic things a human can do to their psyche is to burden themselves with “what-ifs.” The past cannot be changed, no matter how much we may wish it could be. While it is important to acknowledge our personal history, as it has helped shape who we are today, and who we will become tomorrow, it is equally important not to become so beleaguered by the burdens of hurt, pain, or guilt in our pasts that we are unable to move forward. The best thing we can do with the pain from our past hurts and the guilt from our past mistakes is to learn from them, and then leave them. Move on. Give the past a quick glance in your rearview as you pass them by on your way to a better today and tomorrow.

            Another stealthy thief of our “now” is a constant, obsessive focus on the future.  We must not allow our desire to achieve our goals and dreams to overwhelm our present. As humans we are all uniquely gifted individuals, and we all have the great potential to develop and use those gifts to fulfill specific missions within our life, and yet those missions are as constantly changing and developing as we do. We are meant to have vision, goals and dreams to strive for. Our goals fill us with hope, and can motivate us toward positive growth and development. Yet, “potential” is a readily tossed about word these days. How many times have you heard someone say he or she “has so much potential.” Well, future potential can be a wonderful thing, and yet it can also cause us to completely devalue our present if we become so focused on our future potential that we stop seeing what we are doing now as important. Every phase, every season, every process of life is important in the whole, grand picture of our lives. Life flies by. Childhood passes to adulthood in a blink, and quicker than we can fathom, it’s over.  It is so important that we don’t overlook any of the unique seasons of our lives as menial or unimportant.

            An unhealthy preoccupation with the future often brings about unnecessary stress, worry, and fear. How frequently do you ask yourself “what are you going to do?” about a problem which isn’t even facing you today, such as a forthcoming test or bill. Perhaps an even more frequently occurring problem is dread, a close cousin of fear. We set ourselves up to miss the joy that can be found in little moments by having preconceived negative perceptions about the future. For example, I detest traffic. I used to sit at my desk at work, dreading the time when I would have to get up, head out the door, get in my car, and sit in traffic. I feel similarly about laundry, or cleaning the bathroom. I had set up such a negative attitude about these tasks that I have missed opportunities for happiness, and denied myself the joy that can be found in even the most menial tasks and commonplace moments. Simply changing how one approaches such tasks can truly bring so much to your life. Instead of dreading something you know has to be done anyway, find a way to enjoy it. I now use that time in traffic to enjoy music, or listen to a book, or meditate, or pray. When laundry day nears, I rent a movie to watch while I fold clothes. As for the bathroom cleaning, I still haven’t found a positive approach to that, but I’m a work in progress, as we all are. We can’t escape the future, so there is no point in dreading it, worrying about it, or fearing it. Since we can’t avoid the future, if we wish to maintain peace and joy in our everyday lives, it is important to consistently approach it from a positive perspective.

             While learning to manage and mediate fear and worry is essential to living in the moment and finding our joy, to truly experience happiness we must also learn not to base it on external things. The world and most of the people in it are not going to change to suit your mood or personal preferences. Likewise, if we base our happiness on our ever-shifting circumstances, we are going to be constantly searching for our peace and joy, likely believing it is just out of reach. Life can be a rollercoaster, full of ups and downs. If we are dependent upon good circumstances to have a positive attitude, we are likely to be an emotionally unstable mess, particularly during times of hardship and trial. Consider the preponderance of addictions, depression, suicides and failed marriages which occur amongst the Hollywood elite. These individuals have attained what many people would consider “ideal” circumstances; money, power, privilege, and influence. Yet despite all the wonderful external things which these people possess, many of them are exceedingly unhappy. Neither circumstances, nor material things, nor power and influence can enable one to be truly happy.

            I cannot number all of the time I’ve lost over the years condemning myself to a life of discontent by placing (often ridiculous) restrictions on my own happiness.  “I’ll be happy when I lose ___ pounds,” or “I’ll be happy when I finish school,” or better still, “I’ll be happy when ___  treats me right and we don’t disagree anymore.” On and on I would go. Constantly telling myself I’d finally be happy when I had attained a certain goal, or when circumstances, or the people around me had changed.  I’ve also spent immeasurable amounts of time worrying about, fearing, or even dreading tomorrow.  I would constantly allow my head to be filled with thoughts like “what if I can’t pay my bills this month?” Or ,“am I raising my daughter right?” And the biggest of them all, “What am I going to do with the rest of my life?!?” Life is so precious and so brief, and I am so thankful for my experiences and my faith, through which I have learned to change my thinking, shift my perspective, and live within today, finding joy in each moment—even the difficult ones.

            This is not a new principle. The phrases “live in the moment” and “live each day as if it were your last,” are both sayings that have long been spoken in our culture, and yet so many people are seemingly unable to do this. Peace and joy are two of the most precious assets in our lives. Joy is not simply the presence of happiness in our lives; it is also defined by the absence of the worry, regret, and fear which can steal our peace. It typically isn’t the circumstances, things, or people around you that cause you to be happy or unhappy; rather it is how you respond to these things which define your emotional state. Living a joy-filled life is a decision. It is an attitude formed deep within our hearts. We must make the decision to positively approach each day and learn to enjoy each and every moment of our lives, as each moment is immeasurably valuable. As The Beatles George Harrison once said, “Its being here now that's important. There's no past and there's no future. Time is a very misleading thing. All there is ever, is the now. We can gain experience from the past, but we can't relive it; and we can hope for the future, but we don't know if there is one.” Don’t make the choice to live for the yesterday which has come and gone, or the tomorrow which may never come. Live in the present, enjoy every moment, and gain all of the fulfillment and joy that can be found in today.

♥ Jen

Original Image via pinterest, photography source unknown, edited by me

HEALTHY LIVING: FUN FOODIE FINDS

Being healthy conscious, and having a little one running around has me constantly on the lookout for delicious healthy goodies to fill our pantry and fridge. There have been some fantastic entries to the market lately, and I thought I'd share a few of my faves with you!

Over the last few years, I discovered I was largely intolerant to dairy products. I didn't really have a single outstanding symptom, I simply noticed that my skin and my tummy both felt better when I avoided most milk and milk products. I still enjoy some cheese every now and then, but tend to stick to goat cheese, feta, or sheep's milk ricotta, or a touch of traditional shredded cheese here or there.

Luckily for me, there are a TON of new dairy-free products out there. Hands down, my all-around favorite milk replacement is unsweetened vanilla almond milk. I just really enjoy the flavor and texture. Plus it has a ton of calcium and is very low in calories, only 35 calories per cup, which makes it a great base for smoothies or to splash on cereal. A newer addition are all of the coconut milk products. An excellent source of MCFA's {thats medium-chain fatty acids, which are a great heart healthy fat}, and also high in calcium, I've discovered some new favorites thanks to So Delicious!

I love their creamers. Just a touch adds such great flavor and creaminess to my morning coffee! Definite two thumbs up!

I also have really enjoyed their Kefir. An excellent source of probiotics, this dairy-version is outstanding. And it is not overly sweetened, which I enjoy. So delicious has also started making a greek yogurt which I love, but it can be hard to find.

For my snack-fiend of a daughter, I tend to rely on Trader Joe's for healthier versions of chips and cookies and such, but I've come across a few great finds at my local store lately. Late July Organics is a new favorite, and their sandwich cookies are also delightful, as well as free from synthetic ingredients and high fructose corn syrup..

Also a new favorite are Mary's Gone Organic Original Crackers. Perfect with some carrots and hummus for a mid-day snack, they are full of healthy fiber and omega-3's. 

And in the cereal aisle, I came across Cascadian Farms Organic, who make some great, healthier alternatives to traditional kids cereals. No synthetic colors or flavors, and low on sugar. They also make fantastic granola, which is perfect for sprinkling on your yogurt. My favorites are the french vanilla almond and dark chocolate. Fantastic for those chocolate cravings, simply add a packet of stevia to plain greek yogurt. Yum.

In the snack/granola bar department, Kind bars have come out with a much more waistline friendly "snack size," each bar has 3g of tummy-filling fiber and only 110 calories. Great to keep in your purse for a quick, healthy snack on the go. 

If you are a Costco member, keep an eye out in their aisles for "Coach's Oats Multigrain Pancake Mix" {amazing! Try it with bananas or blueberries!} and "Made in Nature Organics" unsulphured, unsweetened dried fruits. Their antioxidant fusion blend, apricots, and figs are favorites to have around the house. Great to add to homemade cookies, or to toss in oatmeal. 

So there you have it! A quick round-up of my families favorites for snacking and beyond. Here's to happy, healthy tummies all around!

♥ Jen

INSTANT HOME UPDATE: BRING THE GLAM OUTDOORS

While I don't have the pleasure of walking out my patio doors every morning to a view like this:

I am incredibly blessed to live in a beautiful city. We are within walking distance to more than 6 parks and three beaches fronting Lake Washington. One of the downsides to living in such a fantastic location is that unless you have a multi-million dollar bank account, having a spacious backyard to landscape and enjoy just isn't likely. We are lucky enough to have an apartment with a spacious walk-out patio. Now, oftentimes this is a highly neglected area in a rental. It is what it is--a blank slate--and most people leave it that way. I however, would love to entice you to explore the many possibilities that embracing that extra space can offer. An outdoor living room, a garden, a party and barbecue zone...there are so many options. And the best way to bring warmth and life to an outdoor space is a really simple, budget-friendly formula...

All weather rug + Bistro Set + Umbrella + Container Plantings + a Few Fabulous Accessories

You can easily manage a quick patio redesign in a day, and should definitely be able to keep it budget-friendly with some savvy shopping choices. Ikea, and Target usually have some fun lower cost items, or you can search Craigslist. As my design aesthetic lends towards comfortable modern classic with a touch of glam, I've thrown together some pieces which would make an ideal backyard retreat.

Martha Stewart Living Fretwork All-Weather Area Rug, $267

IKEA Ammerö, $90

IKEA Läckö, $109

Chinese Garden Stool, $129

Z Gallerie - Faceted Crystal Sphere, $35

Can I just say I would LOVE to have potted citrus trees?!? Sadly, they simply will not survive in Seattle's mostly gloomy weather. Sigh. C'est la vie! I'd have to switch those out with some more climate appropriate plants. Well, I've certainly inspired myself to make better use of my outdoor space, and I truly hope you'll consider how you can best use yours!

♥ Jen

photo via BHG.com

BUILDING A FUNCTIONAL WARDROBE: STEP 3

So we have edited, purged and organized and at last we have reached my favorite part of building your closet: working your wardrobe! This portion is definitely the most fun {as long as you love playing with clothes, and clearly I do!}, but even if shopping has intimidated you in the past, I'll give you some helpful tips here to make your trips to the mall {or shopbop.com, whatever} much more productive.

So, if I were starting from scratch and had endless amounts of moohlah, these are pretty much the items I would fill my closet with. For most of us though, we aren't starting from scratch, we are simply filling the fashion holes that were identified in our editing process (click here to read in case you missed out). So do you have the notes you took from the final step of our purging post? To recap, you should have identified the following:

-What silhouettes do I gravitate to?
{Do you love skinny jeans or flares? Pencil skirts or A-line styles? Slouchy shifts or

more tailored dresses? V-neck or boat-neck tops? Button downs or drapey tops?}

-What styles are most flattering to my body type?

-What colors am I drawn to?
{If you aren't sure what looks good on you, know three things: 1. you can do a warm/cool test easily by holding up a swatch of both ivory and white fabrics to your skin. If the white looks better, you have more of a cool tone to your skin, and cooler tones like sea blues, soft grays, and cool pinks and greens will look best on you. If the ivory is a better match, warm earthy tones like warm reds, olive green, oranges, and mustard hues will suit you best. 2. Remember that Jewel tones like deep ruby red, sapphire blue, lapis or cobalt blue, emerald green, jade green, turquoise, citron yellow, and deep amethyst purple, are almost universally flattering to all skin tones. 3. These are not set in stone rules, just guidelines to help you out. If you are pale with a cool undertone and want to rock that mustard colored dress, go for it, just make sure to pair it with warmer toned make-up.}

-What is missing in my wardrobe?

{What pieces do you need more of? What pieces do you find yourself always wishing you had to pull together fabulous outfits? Your current lifestyle and body type are key components in answering this question. Do you have a closet full of stillettos to chase your new baby around in? Are you flooded with jeans and leggings but no office attire?}

To show you how to apply your answers to these questions to a shopping trip in reality, I am going to walk you through my personal wardrobing process. I'll give you an overview of pieces that I believe are essential in most wardrobes and which styles work best for me in each category, and why. I'll also cover some figure flattery basics. To give you a bit of body and lifestyle perspective, I'm tall at 5'9", a bit curvy on my bottom half, and a {stylish} full-time student and mom. 

A workable wardrobe should play two primary roles: It should make you look good, and it should work with your lifestyle. Quantity is not necessarily the goal here. You should focus on finding the best quality pieces you can afford for the core components, like pants, skirts, dresses, and jeans, and splurge on timeless jackets and handbags which you'll use for years. Rather than spending $30 on 5 pairs of jeans that don't really flatter you, and stretch out after a few wearings, save that money and get a great quality pair of jeans from your local Nordstrom's, where they will tailor them onsite if needed. 

If you fill your closet with 30 quality pieces which fit your body and lifestyle impeccably, you can put together hundreds of outfits, and readily change up the looks of your classic pieces with some fun accessories. A great pair of jeans or black pants can easily go from daycare to dinner date to work with a simple change of top and accessories. 

So let's get started! Remember, for your own wardrobe you should have at least 5-10 fantastic pieces in each category. If you've found a really amazing style that works fantastically for you, great. Buy it in a few colors. 

TOPS

Must Have's:

♦ Button Down Blouses: These can be silk, cotton, or a stretch-cotton blend, whatever works best for your body type and lifestyle. I do think that every woman should own at least one white (or ivory) and one black blouse. If the style works well for you, pick up a few more in a neutral pattern and bold color.

♦ Striped Tee: A classic, seasonless piece which wears well with both solids and other prints. Pick a classic navy and white or black and white for the most versatility. 

♦ Great fitting T-shirts: V-neck, scoop-neck, or crew, pick a style which drapes well, doesn't cling, and isn't too sheer. 

♦ "I feel pretty" Tops: Be it cowl neck, architectural, sequined, draped, or a deep-v neck, pick a few tops which are admittedly sexy and fun {but try not to go so sexy you'll scare the neighbors}. Then play with mixing them up with your everyday pieces. 

♦Tunics: Great for pairing with leggings or tights on casual days, make sure they have some style to them. Tailoring, draping, a nice knit, high-low hem, etc. Don't just wear a baggy t-shirt and call it a tunic. 

What I picked:

♦ Silk blouses in a variety of shapes and colors. I selected a classic black boyfriend blouse, a black and white star-print button down (small prints are very flattering, and this one is neutral and fun), an ivory tie-neck blouse, and a pink cowl-neck silk tee. I love silk  because it drapes beautifully, and instantly dresses up even your most worn in jeans.

♦ A black and white boatneck striped tee. Two words: classic and versatile.

♦ A chambray shirt. Slightly oversized and perfectly worn, this is a summer staple, and a great eclectic wardrobe workhorse. Try it with a fringed leather mini for a night out, or wear it open over a floaty silk dress. It adds a great sense of downtown casual-comfort while still looking tailored and put together.

♦ Shirttail Hem T-shirt. I am a big fan of shirttail and high-low hem t-shirts. They do double duty by gaining extra style points and downplaying my curvy hips. Love.

♦ Draped and Architectural Tunics. I am a major fan of edgy details. Asymmetry, draping, leather trim, studs, and architectural styling are all right up my alley. Asymmetry and draping have the added bonus of being incredibly flattering when executed properly. This draped tunic is no exception. A slight cowl neck and all-over ruching makes for a comfortable, sexy, and flattering top. Likewise, the scoop neck tunic with leather Y-back detail is comfy, simple, and sexy with a slight rocker vibe. Adore.

KNITS & BASICS

Must Have's:

♦ Classic Button Down Cardigans: V-neck or jewel-neck, hip-length or waist, pick a seasonless mid-weight merino or cotton blend. Silk-blends or cashmere would also be great, though they are a bit higher maintenance. 

♦ Cable Knit Cardigan in a classic beige or ivory: This classic will never go out of style, and is great for cozy days in, running errands, or weekends. 

♦ Draped-Front Cardigan: The V-necks newer, hipper, cousin. This super-flattering and comfy lightweight layer is a great, modern, cover-up for almost anything.

♦ An Open-Knit Sweater: Perfect for throwing over a dress to change the look, or for summer wear.

♦ V-neck or Boatneck Tunics/Sweaterdresses: These are a staple in my closet during the fall and winter (who am I kidding, and spring, and half of the "summer..." I live in Seattle!). I'll layer them over jeans or leggings, or wear them alone over tights. Simple, classic, and cozy.

♦ Basic Tanks and Tees. Wardrobe workhorses for layering under those sweaters. I love American Apparel and Gap for these basics.

What I Picked:

♦ V-neck Boyfriend Cardigans. Since I'm tall, I simply love the length of these cardigans. The lightweight knit and neutral colors I chose make these total closet workhorses. 

♦ Tunics Galore. What can I say, I love tunics. The length is perfect for me, as most "hip length" sweaters actually barely cover my waist and hit my bum at a very unflattering point. Most tunics hit me at the top of my thighs, which is a perfect length for layering. I'll wear them over just about any pant, and they also work wonders over leggings. Longer length tunics work as standalones to wear over tights. For me at 5'9", a tunic needs to be between 34-36" long to pull off wearing without pants. 

♦ Draped Cardigans. I love these. Stylish, and easy. Throw them over a nice t-shirt with jeans and you still look like you put some effort into your outfit. Throw them over a silky shift and your ready for a downtown cool date night.

♦ V-neck high-low hem sweater. Classic camel color goes with just about everything, but is an especially great counterpart to brights. The high-low hem gives it a modern dose of style.

♦ Neutral Open-Knit Sweater. Perfect soft color. Perfect for layering. Perfect for summer. 

♦ American Apparel unisex v-neck tees and tanks. My favorites are the tri-blend racerback and viscose sexuali-tanks (weird name, I know) as well as their tri-blend v-neck and sheer jersey deep v-neck t-shirts. I stock up on neutrals in these for all-year, everyday, and even gym wear.

DRESSES

Must Have's:

♦ Casual Knit Dress: This could be a mini, a maxi, v-neck, wrap-dress, crew-neck, boat-neck or anywhere in-between. Just make sure it is a nice, medium-weight knit, not too sheer, drapes well, is flattering and is comfy. 

♦ Something Sparkly: Really, every girl needs a little sparkle...a little glimmer and glow in her life. Sequins, shimmer, glitter, beading, whatever floats your boat. Extra credit for finding ways to work these little numbers into everyday wear. 

♦ Mid length dresses with Sleeves: For work, church, or whenever a little more modesty is needed.

♦ Fun, Party Dress: Self-explanatory. These should literally make you smile when you put them on.

♦ Chiffon or Silk Dress in a simple shape: Wardrobe workhorses. Can be dressed up or down with the right accessories.

♦ Formal Dresses/Black-tie {if needed}

What I Picked:

♦ Shift Dresses: The simple silhouette of the shift dress is timeless. It is also very flattering to most body types. I picked five shifts, one in ecru silk, one leather, one in a subtle neutral print, one black and white color-blocked and one sequined. I also loved the length of these dresses. At about 36" they are the perfect length to wear alone, or over pants. Again, versatility is key in a functional wardrobe!

 *HINT: If you are petite, make close personal friends with a fantastic tailor. A great seamstress can alter almost any knee-length (or even longer) dress, to that perfect mid-thigh length which will make them work the best for you. To find your "perfect" length, have a dress hemmed to the thinnest point of your thigh (usually, right between your knee and upper thigh). This length still allows  for enough modesty to wear alone (though I usually wear mine with tights, unless I'm somewhere really warm...definitely not Seattle!) but also will allow you to wear them tunic style layered over other items. 

♦ Classically Tailored Pencil Dress. Note the strategic tailoring. Draping at the waist hides a less-than perfect tummy (babies!) and accentuates the femininity of your waistline. The subtle asymmetry of the neckline adds interest and is extremely flattering. The neutral color, three quarter-sleeves, and knee-length make this piece classic for more modest occassions or work. 

♦ T-dress. I picked two. A slouchy T-dress, and a long-sleeve cowl-neck version. A nice cotton-knit blend gives these dresses a nice drape and isn't too sheer. The slightly above knee length is perfect for seasonless wearing, and neutral colors can be casual, but are also easy to dress up with accessories. If your exceptionally busty, beware of cowl-necks, as they can overly accentuate a full-chest. I definitely do not have this issue. {{Sigh}}.

♦ Classic Black Dress. Literally, this piece is timeless and can be worn anywhere, at anytime, for nearly any occasion except a super formal black-tie affair. The full length sleeves, perfect length, excellent tailoring and fabric, make this a perfect investment piece.  

♦ Silk Dresses: As I've already mentioned, I love silk. The drape, the luxury, the color saturation. It is also exceedingly versatile. I picked two silk dresses, one in a pinky nude, and the other a bold purple. Both dresses have great details, and the shape and style make them easy to dress up or down.

♦ Fun party dresses. So, aside from sequined splendor, the next things that screams fun to me is bold color. I love jewels tones, as they brighten my skin {{read:: make me look like I'm alive}}, but these royal colors really are highly flattering for almost all skin tones. I picked an asymmetrical draped cobalt dress, and a pink high-low spaghetti strap dress. Both are fun, and again, either can be dressed further up or down with the right accessories.

SKIRTS

Must Have's
♦ Pencil Skirts: Probably the most universally flattering and timeless silhouette of all, the pencil skirt can give shape to a boyish figure, visually slim and flatter a curvy figure, and simply enhance a balanced figure. Pick a length that hits just above or just below the knee, not right in the middle, for the most lengthening effect.

♦ Maxi Skirts: Today you can find maxi's in just about every fabric; silk, wool, cotton, jersey knit, and more. Pick the fabric that works best for your needs and lifestyle {Please don't pick a silk maxi if you're toting around toddlers. That is a dry cleaning disaster waiting to happen}. The length should just graze the floor with your shoes on. 

♦ Pleated Skirt: A classic preppy skirt which is highly flattering whether full, a-line, or pencil shaped. Wear it with a tucked-in classic button down to play up its preppy factor, or pair it with a funky leather trimmed top {or a chambray shirt} and biker boots for a downtown chic weekend look.

♦ Mid-length Knit Skirt: Great for casual comfy days, or dress it up with a sparkly top and heels, this is another great transitional piece.

♦ Something Fun/Funky: This is a personal party piece. It could be sequined, fringed, leather, whatever style and silhouette makes you happy and plays well with the rest of your wardrobe. 


What I Picked

♦ Pencil Skirts. I picked five amazing pencil skirts, as this is hands down my favorite shape. A sexy brown leather version, a classic black piece, a timeless tweed, and two fun, wearable prints: floral and polka dots. The leather and black skirts can be worn with just about anything, for most any occasion. Likewise with the tweed, floral, and polka dot pieces, but the classic, wearable, prints bring life and interest to your closet and are fun to mix and match with contrasting styles. Stripes or chambray anyone? 

♦ Maxis: I picked a bold, colored maxi in a favorite jewel tone, as well as a basic black maxi. Both are wearable knits which can easily go from day to night.

♦ Pleated High-low circle skirt. This skirt in a feminine blush shade will be a great counterpart to some of this closets edgier pieces. It can also be worn ladylike with a tucked in blouse, or for a barbie moment, paired with a bold pink top {Just be sure to keep accessories neutral!}.

♦ Knit Skirt: I picked two, the first a simple, slinky, subtly draped and striped version. Easily paired with boots and a t-shirt for casual days, but can also be easily dressed up by swapping boots for heels and a day bag for a sparkly clutch. The second is a super flattering draped front khaki skirt, which is a great summer day and office piece.

♦ Fringed Leather Mini. A really fun piece, this would be great with a simple tee or tank for a girls night out, or dress it down with some classic converse kicks, a denim jacket, and a classic white tee. You could even pair it with black opaque tights, a white button down, a blazer, and some classic suede pumps for an edgy-classic work look.

PANTS

Must Have's

♦ Classic Trousers: Wide leg or a slight bootleg are the most versatile and universally flattering silhouette. Pick a lightweight stretch wool for seasonless wear. You should have at least one black pair, and one other neutral pair, be it gray, white, navy, brown, or beige.

♦ Denim: This is a pretty personal category as comfort and fit are key, and everyone is different. Some basic tips- A slight bootleg can balance out wide hips, while a high waist skinny can add curves to a boyish figure or flatter a really curvy physique. Buttoned back pockets accentuate the rear, which is great for those without much of a backside. Straight leg is probably the hardest fit to wear and pull-off. Other fits include flare and wide leg. For the ultimate in versatility, pick a dark indigo wash as well as a nice, medium blue without excessive whiskering or fading. Too much fading and whiskering can accentuate trouble spots. Length is also important. The hem of your jeans should just graze the floor, so its best to have different pairs for wearing with both heels and flats.

♦ Colored Pants: A great alternative to khakis and a bold option when you just aren't feeling your regular jeans or black pants. I love these in a slim fit, as an alternative to skinny jeans or leggings. 

♦ Boyfriend Fit Trousers: A great counterpart to more feminine pieces, and a comfy weekend pant. Pick a neutral beige or khaki, or even a denim pair.

♦ Silk Pants: You ever have those days when you just don't want to change out of your pajamas? Well, these are the pants for those days. Highly comfortable and flattering, put on a T-shirt,a blazer, and your favorite pair of heels and your good to go.

♦ Leggings. I LOVE leggings. Comfortable and flattering, and now they come in a variety of materials. Cotton, Leather, Suede, Velvet, Corduroy... Wear with a tunic and heels, or throw on a tee and fun jacket, or pair them with a button down, a blazer, and heels for work. 

What I Picked

♦ Classic Pants. I picked both a timeless stretch wool bootleg pair, as well as a cropped tuxedo trimmed pair in black. You can literally wear these with almost anything, pretty much anywhere. I love the subtle glam that the satin trim gives the tuxedo pair. I also chose a bootleg version in a bold maroon hue, and a slouchy wide-leg pair in camel. 

♦ Jeans. I picked an indigo denim slim bootleg pair as well as a mid-rise skinny in a classic blue wash. I also chose a mid-rise flare in white, which is great for spring and summer.

♦ Colored Pants. I picked a classic red denim pair, as well as a bold purple cropped version in stretch cotton. Pair these with any top in your wardrobe and add a pair of leopard print heels for a fun day look. 

♦ Boyfriend Fit Trousers: I picked a neutral khaki pair which will go with just about anything for a tom-boyish vibe. 

♦ Silk Trousers. I picked a great pair of patterned silk pants, which are all the rage right now, as well as a neutral beige cargo version. The print I chose is highly versatile and will go with just about every top pictured. Remember to choose a small-scale print for the most slimming effect. If you are slim {or just really confident} to begin with, feel free to pick that super-hot huge floral print, and go for it. The beige silk pair is actually quite similar to a pair I already own and love, and I love to pair it with a tee, blazer and heels.

♦ Leggings. I'm going to let you in on a little secret: I have a *little* obsession with leather, and leggings. Combine the two, and I just might have my perfect pair of pants. So, I picked both a drool-worthy black leather pair, as well as a great warm brown suede pair. For everyday wear, I love these Hue 'Ultra' Wide Waistband Leggings. They are a perfect weight, not too thick and not sheer at all, and they wash up beautifully.

JACKETS

Must Have's

♦ The Classic Blazer: A perennial, seasonless, favorite. Pick a stretch, light to mid-weight wool, silk, or synthetic blend in a one or two button hip-length silhouette for the most versatility.

♦ The Ladylike Jacket: A great topper for dresses, a great way to dress up jeans and a tee, or a fun counterpart to edgy leather leggings, these are another classic and highly versatile piece.

♦ The Trench: The classic outerwear piece. Pick a neutral beige or black version in a weatherproof cotton-poly blend for ultimate versatility. Consummately flattering for all figures, this piece can be worn over anything. Timeless.

♦ The Anorak Great for adding a tomboyish, sporty look to your outfits. Pick a modern military style or go with the classic anorak look with a waist and hem drawstring. 

♦ The Leather Motorcycle Jacket: Another classic piece. This is the ultimate topper to add a bit of edge to an ensemble. Wear it over a sparkly dress out at night, or throw it over a floaty feminine maxi for a chic day look. Pick a neutral black, brown, or gray, but make sure it is high quality leather and fits slim, but not too tight. The length should hit you right at, or just below your waist. 

♦ The Denim Jacket: Again, a timeless style, but this piece is for dressing down ensembles. Give an instant casual vibe to your dressiest pieces by topping it with a denim jacket.

What I Picked 

♦ Blazers. I picked a classic black one-button blazer, and a structured light gray synthetic version. Both are seasonless weights and can be paired with any top and bottom, or tossed over a dress for a finished look. I also picked a fun, draped, black blazer which is structured yet edgy. A fun piece over a tee, this version can also be worn multiple ways: Buttoned, unbuttoned, and upside down for totally different looks. 

♦ Ladylike Jackets. I love this style and picked three. One in a bold orange-red color, one classic chanel inspired white style with black trim, and a fun chevron striped double breasted version. All can be paired with just about any outfit for a feminine, tailored, finish. 

♦ Trench. I picked a classic short trench in a cool beige. Wear it open for a casual look, or buttoned and knotted at the waist.

♦ Anorak. I picked a classic military style with adjustable sleeves. A great piece to give casual edge to your feminine dresses, or even tone down that sparkly shift for daytime wear. 

♦ The Leather Jacket. I picked a pretty perfect, black lambskin version, the ultimate in downtown chic versatility. Nuff' said.

♦ Denim: I picked a slightly cropped, slim version of the traditional denim jacket. The traditional, hip length version is a bit too casual feeling for me, and simply isn't flattering on my tall frame.

ACCESSORIES

Must Have's 

♦ Jewelry: Well, duh. We all need a little *bling* to personalize our fabulous outfits. For everyday pick some wearable everyday studs and medium sized hoops, and a few simple bracelets and necklaces. You also need a few statement pieces; these can be rings, necklaces, bold earrings, whatever suits you. 

♦ Sunglasses: Pick a classic style which flatters your face shape. Click here for a helpful article to help you choose the best sunglasses style for your face.

♦ Watch: You are either a watch person or your not. If you are, you know what suits you, and have more than one. If you aren't, simply pick a classic style in silver or gold, which is functional and works well with the jewelry you own. 

♦ Scarves: I love scarves. They are a great way to add a color or print to an otherwise neutral wardrobe. For the ultimate luxury, pick up one of White + Warren's Cashmere travel wraps. They can be worn as a scarf, or as a wrap over a formal dress, and they are oh-so-soft. 

♦ Belts: Give shape to that simple shift, or cinch over a sweater or blazer for a fun accent. Belts are for more than keeping your pants up. They deftly define the waist and can add distinct panache to an outfit. 

What I Picked 

♦ Jewelry. I like a variety of styles, but choose primarily simple, architectural pieces. I chose a pair of gold hoops and several pairs of studs for everyday, and some fun chandeliers for statement earrings. I also chose a versatile everyday pendant necklace and two edgier statement pieces. I chose several stackable bracelets in both gold and silver, and one chunky woven gold bracelet which I simply adore. Stella & Dot and  J Crew are my go-to sources for great jewelry. 

♦ Sunglasses. I chose two classic styles the aviator and the wayfarer, one in gold and one in black. 

♦ Watch. I am a sucker for big watches, and this gold chronograph style by Michael Kors is right up my alley. Looks great alone, or worn with bracelets.

♦ Scarves: I picked one geometric print scarf in black and white, but in reality, I have a huge collection of scarves, in a spectrum of colors and prints. Pick a few favorite colors, and some classic patterns such as florals or animal prints to start your collection. Forever 21 and Target at great sources for budget-friendly items.

♦ Belts. I chose a classic, medium width belt in cognac brown as well as a bold neon pink skinny belt. The brown belt is an uber functional wardrobe piece, and can be belted over almost anything or simply worn with jeans. The neon pink skinny belt is great to add a pop of color or contrast to just about anything.

HANDBAGS

Must Have's
♦ A Feminine Structured Shoulder Bag: This should be a timeless piece in leather. Pick a neutral color {I'd go with black or beige}, and should have a comfortable strap. Many newer, high-quality versions have adjustable chain straps which take them from shoulder bag to cross-body.

♦ A Classic Satchel: Again, timeless is the word. Invest in a quality piece with great structure and hardware, in a neutral shade for the most versatility.

♦ The Everyday Bag: This should be your go-to basic. Pick a neutral shade for the most versatility, and pick a shape which works with the style of your clothes, holds all your necessities, and is comfortable for all day use.

♦ The Tote: For when you need to carry more than will fit in your normal purse. Larger than your everyday bag, but still versatile enough to work for day-to-day use.

♦ The Clutch: Have fun here. Pick a color which will match the majority of your go-to formal or date-night ensembles. Glitz and Glamour are welcome. Your clutch should fit at minimum your phone, a compact, a lipstick, and your cash/I.D./credit card.

♦ The Colorful Daybag: Something to swap out for your Everyday bag when a neutral just doesn't do your outfit justice.

What I Picked 
♦ The Shoulder Bag: A classic quilted, chain strap shoulder bag in black. This beautiful piece will easily go from errands, to meetings, to dinner.

♦ The Satchel: This is a quintessential version of this timeless piece. Beautiful leather and hardware, and a classic cognac shade. LOVE.

♦ The Everyday: I chose two a structured black leather version, which can easily be tossed over your shoulder, or carried as a satchel, and a white duffel. With a nod to both the classic bowler's bag and the doctor's bag, the black bag is as functional as it is versatile. Likewise, the white duffel is a perfect size, and works perfectly with spring and summers softer palettes.

♦ The tote: I picked a fun tote in a soft neutral taupe shade. Constructed of leather with a chain strap and removable accent bow, this has room for a laptop, magazines, and your necessities. As at home at work as it is at the beach or functioning as a carry-on.

♦ The Clutch: I went for glitz. I chose a copper toned glitter embellished version. Perfect to dress up any look.

♦ The Colored Bag: I chose a studded duffel in a classic, bold red. The perfect pop of color. 

SHOES

Shoes are quite possibly the most personal part of a woman's wardrobe. The styles which will work for you are highly lifestyle dependent. I'm going to give you an overview of the shoes I think every woman should have in her wardrobe. Keep in mind that heel heights range from flat to kitten-heel {1/2 to 1 inch}, to mid-heel {2-3"}, to high {3.5-6"}. So if a leopard heel stilletto doesn't work for your lifestyle {or basic comfort requirements} find a lower heeled, or flat version. I'm not going to go into detail here on what I picked, I think its most important that you know what the essentials are for versatility.

Must Have's

♦ The Black Pump: Pick suede or leather, and if you choose a higher heel, your feet will thank you if you find a pair with a subtle platform. This is the ultimate basic for a feminine, work appropriate wardrobe. However, the right pair is equally at home on date night.

♦ The Bold Color: Pump, wedge, or flat, pick a great color which compliments much of your wardrobe. A great way to add a pop of color to a neutral ensemble, or a basic pair of jeans. You may find yourself addicted to these, as I did. If you're a fan of heels, Steve Madden makes a great, the "Traisie", which is an affordable and surprisingly comfortable version which I've purchased in several colors. J Crew is my go-to source for quality, comfortable, and colorful flats--check out the "Cece"!

♦ The Animal Print: Python and Leopard print are perennial fashonista favorites, and are a great way to add a super stylish finish to any ensemble. I LOVE my animal prints.

♦ The Nude Peep-Toe Pump: While I would also recommend that you have this style in black patent leather, the Nude is an absolute essential. This leg-lengthening silhouette is essential for styling boldly colored outfits, and is a spring and summer must.

♦ The Wedge: Wedge heels are having a fashion moment, and rightly so. The height of a heel, with all day comfort and wearability. Pick a neutral shade {black, gray, taupe, beige, camel, brown} with a fun detail, like studs, to add punch to your errands outfits.

♦ The Bootie: A fall wardrobe staple, the bootie has become the downtown girls choice for a chic, edgy counterpart to girly dresses. I like to have both a traditional bootie (cut below the ankle) for dressier styles, as well as an ankle-boot around for dressing down a bit.

♦ The Sandal: Pick a neutral shade, or go for a metallic gold or silver. A must for summer and vacations.

♦ The Strappy Heel: For your formal dresses, or to make your jeans and a tee date worthy, you need a pair of strappy heels. Pick gold or silver for the dressiest vibe and most styling versatility.

♦ Flats: A must for running errands, or when you're otherwise going to be doing lots of walking. There are so many stylish pairs to choose from today.

♦ The Knee High Heeled Boot: A must for fall and winter wear, pick a high quality leather version in a neutral color with a mid-heel for the most versatility and comfort.

♦ The Flat Boot: Flat boots are another must for fall and winter. Essentials for when you need to do some walking, and I love me a good old biker boot. A great way to edge up an outfit {Pair them with a feminine dress, or a Tee and leggings}, but for a more classic style choose an equestrian style riding boot.

♦ Everyday Ol' Reliables: For me, these would be converse sneaks. These are your "when you are just going for comfort and function" kicks. For summer, glitter Tom's are a fun, dressier option.

♦ Weather Appropriate Kicks: If you live in a wet climate like Seattle, you need some rain boots. We also get some snow every now and then, so snow boots are helpful. 

JUST FOR FUN

Last up, every gal should have a few pieces in her closet which make her smile when she looks at them, and make her feel fabulous when she wears them. These items are not meant to be practical, though some may be, they are meant to be fun... Just make sure that you actually wear them! 

So there you have it, the basics of building a functional wardrobe. Hopefully this has helped you reconsider new ways of styling items you may already have in your closet, and I certainly hope it helps make your closet work harder for you. 

Getting dressed should be an enjoyable experience, clothes should be fun! Of course they have different functions to serve, but every item in your wardrobe should be a piece you truly like {if not love!}, and which fits well. Try and recapture a bit of that joy we had as little girls playing dress-up. Take the stress out of it. Do yourself a favor and follow these steps. Make your closet, and your clothes, really work for you. There will be one more post to follow on maintaining your wardrobe by adding seasonal updates, so look forward to that! 

♥ Jen

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BUILDING A FUNCTIONAL CLOSET: STEP 2

Today, we are covering part two of the building a functional closet series (click here if you missed part 1), and while not my favorite thing in the world, it is so important and can save you tons of time when using your closet! ORGANIZATION. Sounds simple right? Well, for the few who may happen to possess both expansive walk-in closets, and assistants or housekeepers to routinely organize and de-clutter their things, that may be so. For the rest of us, it takes a bit of work. And for those of us with space-challenges like me, my husband and I share a 6 foot reach-in closet, it can be even more difficult. BUT, with a few simple techniques and some tools of the space-saving and organization sort, you will be good to go.

After you have completed step 1--and likely destroyed your bedroom or dressing area in the process--you may just want to throw your hands up in exhaustion and pass out on your dramatically smaller pile of clothes. But fear not, organizing does not have to be a painful, lengthy ordeal. You just need to be prepared. So here is what you will definitely need to have, and a few things you may want to have for storage depending on your situation:

1. Slimline velvet hangers
These are a must have. The slim lines of these hangers take up much less space than wooden or plastic versions, and the velvet flocking keeps your clothes from slipping off. I love them. Get enough for at least 30 Shirts and Dresses, 20 Pants or Skirts, and 10 Jackets. Ideally, get a set which has a variety of styles and includes pants hangers.

2. Drawer Organizers
These little bins are an essential for organizing underthings, and they don't have to go into a set of drawers if you don't have them. They will work just as well on a set shelves. They also work great for belts.

3. Storage Boxes
If you have the space, these are great for storing extras like handbags, sweaters, etc.

4. Shoe Tree
I use one of these for my shoes, and love it. It has a small footprint and keeps my shoes from getting scratched and scuffed. You can also purchase a version like this with only two shoe trays and space to hang boots (you'll also need boot hangers).

5. Underbed Storage
I consider these a must have for those who have available space under their beds. Alternatively, you can use them on the floor of your closet, or even under your sofa! You can store whatever is necessary in these; out of season clothes, shoes, coats, blankets...whatever!

6. Hanging double closet rod
For those short on space, this is a great tool to help you better use that space below your shorter items. It hangs from your regular closet bar and adds additional space for you to hang shorter tops and skirts.

Its very possible that even after editing, purging, and organizing your wardrobe, you still may be unable to comfortably fit all of your spring, summer, fall, and winter wardrobe into your closet at one time. So, this is where rotating storage comes in handy. Carefully fold all out of season clothes and store in underbed boxes. Alternatively if you have space elsewhere in the house, you can store easily wrinkled items in element-proof (bug, water) hanging bags in a spare closet or rolling rack in another area, such as an attic or basement.

After you have determined your space and storage needs and stored seasonal clothing as needed, you can begin with the remainder of your closet. Yay!

♦ The first step in organizing is simple, but a bit tedious. Fold all of your t-shirts and sweaters (except thin cardigans). Fun, right? Then, sorting by category and color, place on shelves, in labeled boxes within easy reach, or in drawers. If you don't have drawers, or shelves, a good solution is to use hanging shelves which are made of fabric and hang on your closet bar.

♦ Next is sorting the hanging items. Hang dresses, jackets, and longer items on the top bar. Hang on the lowest bar your skirts and shorter tops. If you don't have a lower bar built in, this is where a double hanging rod will come in handy. Then organize by either function (everyday, novelty or formal), type, color, or a combination--pick what will work best for you. I organize my closet by type and color, so I'll hang all of my dresses together, sorted by color, all of my cardigans together sorted by color, etc.

♦ The next step is organizing your extras: Undergarments, swimsuits, tights, belts, scarves, and accessories. You can store undergarments, tights, and swimsuits in boxes if that works for you, or use a drawer organizer and store them in a drawer or on a shelf. You can use belt hooks to hang your belts and scarves, or store the belts in drawer organizers or boxes and scarves folded elsewhere. Jewelry has so many storage options I'll save that for another post entirely.

♦ Finally comes shoes. Boots should be stored with boot shapers to retain their shape, whether hanging them or standing them up for storage. I would also strongly consider placing boots or other seasonal shoes, like summer only sandals in your seasonal rotating storage to conserve space. The remainder of your shoes can be stored by function, or by style, on a shoe tree, on shoe racks, in their original boxes with labels or pictures on them for identification, or lined up on shelves.

So, your closet has now been edited, purged, and organized. Look at all that space! What are you going to do with it? Well, you are going to learn how to fill in all those "missing" items from your wardrobe. Next up is my favorite: Wardrobing!

♥ Jen